Iyanla Vanzant is one of my spiritual mothers.
Her teachings, life story and spiritual guidance just click with my soul. I have learned a lot from her. I am eager to see her speak at Agape International Spiritual Center, later this month.
I just started working through her book Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything. That seems quite a bit to accomplish in 21 days, but I am eager to begin the work.
I am not new to working on forgiving others. I feel most of my efforts over the years have gone into working on forgiving my dad for things that occurred in my childhood and adolescence. I also had a lot of forgiveness and anger to work through in association with his murder and all the aftermath. I almost feel as though my relationship with my dad grew even deeper after his death and I have learned to relate to him on a whole new level. It’s still a work in progress.
In this book, Iyanla walks you through not only forgiving your mother and father, but also God, your feelings, your choices, your relationship with money, your partner/ex-partner, your career, etc. I feel these prompts will help me delve deeper into the realm of forgiveness and explore work I still need to do.
I am not comfortable in anger and unforgiveness. These are energies that do not sit well in my body and I want to get rid of them immediately. I have also learned that it’s not as easy as emptying the trash and these feelings demand to be recognized, felt and worked through.
What are your thoughts on forgiveness? Have you had to put in work to forgive someone? Do you find it hard to forgive yourself?